Disruptive as moving can be for parents, the experience can be even more traumatic for children who may not be a part of the decision to move. For most people, a childhood home represents familiarity and a lot of firsts. Moving away from all these familiar memories could be very difficult processes especially for your children who mostly thrive on routine and familiarity.
You should find ways to carefully prepare your children for the move so that you ease the transition and make the process smoother and way more enjoyable for the whole family. Making them feel involved is important for you to achieve this. Here are some tips on how you can do that.
1. Communicate and discuss your plans of moving
A surprise move for your children is the last thing that they would like. Instead, you should call up your family members and inform them of your plans. Even if the move means an improvement in family life, children do not always understand and may end up focusing on only the frightening aspects of the change.
You should make sure that you clearly outline the reasons for your plan to move into another home and also answer any questions that they may have truthfully. Be sure to pay close attention to their reactions, so that you would be able to alleviate their fears in due time.
2. Visualize your plans
Children can be a lot receptive to your idea of moving if you try to visualize your plans. You can show them pictures of their soon to be new home including their new rooms. This will surely get them excited as they learn that they may be able to design their new rooms. This makes them feel included in the whole process and they are just like participants in the house hunting process.
As a result, they will not feel like the move is being forced on them. You can as well use a map to show them the neighborhood that their new house would be in, circling points of interest like parks and playgrounds.
3. Research and visiting your child’s school with them
Children always find it the most difficult to adjust into new schools when moving into a new neighborhood. You should first really do a thorough research into the school that you are going to enroll your children in, to ensure that your child will be in the right hands. You should then go to the school with your child, allowing them to check the school out as well as the children there. This will calm and ease your child’s nerves.
4. Arrange a party together
Children may feel bad about moving as they may think that they will lose their friends forever. Teenagers may have invested time and considerable energy in a particular social group hence a move would surely seem to jeopardize that. You should have your child help you organize a party dubbed as a ‘see you soon party’ that will enable your child to remember that they are not going to lose their friends forever and that they may always keep in touch.